Veterans Joe Herbert, Don Watters, and Jeff Barber talk about the hardest part of getting out of the military and becoming a civilian.
Veterans Readjust to Civilian Life
By Kate Shelton
Roger Sanders had a big challenge to face in July of 2012. He had to buy a house and take care of it. Sanders had lived in six different states and always had military housing provided for him.
Sanders is a 20 year veteran of the United States Marines Corps. He was in the infantry and then later administration. While Sanders never deployed, he still had a difficult task to overcome: becoming a civilian.
One of the most difficult parts of leaving active duty is coming home and adjusting back to civilian life.
According to a report done by the Veteran’s Administration, there are over 10 different challenges veterans and returning service members face such as relating to people and re-establishing family roles.
The VA report says veterans and service members are often used to having very little choice in basic necessities such as food, clothing and housing. When they return home, these choices that were made for them can become overwhelming.
Sanders said the biggest challenge of adjusting to civilian life was buying a house and taking care of it.
“It took me over a year plus to get a house and I wasn’t really planning on that,” Sanders said.
Another problem for returning veterans and service members is preparing to enter the work force. They have to learn how to create a résumé and translate their military duties into civilian terms.
Sanders went from September to December with no job. He said he did a little part-time work but it was never enough to support himself and his family. In December, he finally found a job with a security company.
“A job didn’t come real fast either. I had to do a lot of background checks and things like that…so we were struggling with money,” Sanders said. “Then, my retirement took a couple of months to kick in so I got my retirement coming in monthly but I didn’t have a full-time job yet.”
Sanders had more adjusting to do. In the Marine Corps as administration, he was working a Monday through Friday job with day hours. Now in his current job, he works from 5:00 p.m. to 12:00 a.m.
Other challenges that veterans or returning service members have to face are creating a structure, establishing a community, adjusting to a different pace, and a more individualistic society.
For Joe Herbert, the hardest part of getting out of the military was not having a job and the difficulty of finding one. Herbert was a United States Army paratrooper stationed at Fort Bragg for five years.
“…When I got out and there were no jobs and I had no skills that transferred over in the civilian world, especially with the infantry,” Herbert said. “You just were taught infantry stuff. You were never taught what to do outside in the real world.”
Herbert also said some other difficult parts of getting out of the military were building up credit because he didn’t have established credit and also, finding a place to go because he didn’t have anywhere to go.
An article done by James Munroe of the VA Boston Healthcare System lists eight battlefield skills to help families understand what veterans or returning service members are going through.
One example is on active duty, one must control emotions. A person experiences horrible situations and they are taught to overcome their reactions and emotions quickly. When returning home, those emotions are supposed to be expressed and this causes conflict.
Another common example is talking about their experiences. It’s difficult for a veteran to explain their decisions and what came of those decisions and what happened while they were away. A veteran may often feel that talking about it may cause upset and rejection by their family or peers.
Sanders said that he doesn’t really talk about his military experiences unless he has to. He said he doesn’t have trouble talking to people but he has no reason to talk about the military because he doesn’t have any military friends anymore.
“Not very often I talk about military stuff, I’m pretty much done with that,” Sanders said. “So I don’t really talk about it anymore.”